Zip it!
February 13, 2009 by Ame Solitaire
Paulie, my friend and former coach once told me, “If you don’t have anything good to say…just don’t say anything at all.”
You’d probably wonder why he gave me this advice…well, if Paul was asked to describe me, he would definitely say, “Jen, she’s misunderstood.” True enough, people’s first impression on me would always be…I am a snob (believe me…I am not…hehe). Probably because I look intimidating. (again, am not…lol). There are times wherein the words that I say are being interpreted negatively though I never meant it that way. So, Paulie, gave me an advice. He told me that I really need to think hard before I utter the words that I’m going to say. But being the chatterbox that I am, I find this advice to be hard to do. So he came up with this other advice, “If you don’t have anything good to say…just don’t say anything at all.”
I blogged about this because, there’s this one recent incident that reminded me of this. An acquaintance cracked a joke pertaining to me and I found it a little off…I wanted to respond to the joke but being the “mean” that I am, I knew that there’s a possibility of offending this person with my joke…so what I did is instead of spilling my very scrutinizing joke, I just smiled and thought to myself,
“Jen, if you don’t have anything good to say…just don’t say anything at all.”
hayz, been often told of that, amiga…ganun talaga..you know sometimes, it does a lot of good pero kasi id rather be marked as mean but i say what is real kesa naman miss congeniality ako pero i stab them at the back..been here in this company for almost 5 years they often boxed me as someone hard to get along with years taught me na wala tayong permanent friends and permanent enemies sa work..well…ganun talaga
hi,sis!actually, you have a point. sometimes, it’s much better to be tagged as “mean” instead of trying to be nice to a person then you say things behind his/her back…at least you’re true to yourself…hehehe…how are you na?miss you…hope we could get together soon. =)